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Facebook Friends (And Why We Shouldn’t Have So Many)

Every so often, you’ll see a status update from one of your friends in which they feel the need to alert everyone that some of you are getting deleted. Since a person will usually delete others based on how infrequently they speak with someone or how little they know that person, it’s a sacrifice they’re willing to make.
It’s at least a little easier to hurt the feelings of the person you don’t know that well; you haven’t invested that much into them yet.

I would like to propose a different way of viewing the subject. Every single casual acquaintance is a possible genuine friendship, even the ones you’ve only met once or have spoken with just a midget’s handful of times. Who knows, maybe you’ll become great friends some day.
I think a better way of going about cleansing the list is to gauge which of those on your Friend’s List you actually like. Be honest with yourself and separate them from those you’ve come to know and are pretty sure you’re never going to get along with. Then, delete the latter.
I don’t think that “seniority rules” should apply when it comes to friends.

Sure, he’s a complete asshole, but I’ve known him FOREVER.

The main reasons we avoid deleting those long-time pseudo-friends that we  knowingly dislike (and who probably return the sentiment) is to avoid awkward social situations or to preserve the feelings of the recently departed, er, deleted.
Which is fine if that is your highest priority.
But it isn’t mine.
I think that the person you’ve only met once deserves a place on your list more than the person you never really got along with or grew apart from years ago. I figure, that person will get over it. Fuck it, why be sneaky about how you feel? If you don’t like someone, you should be able to assertively express yourself and they should be able to get over it.
If they can’t, (and sometimes they won’t) you’ll find it only reinforces your decision.

He was pissed when I deleted him. It’s not that we actually liked each other, but he had JUST gotten his friend’s list up to 420.

The fact of the matter is, beyond 150 people, we really can’t keep up with anyone else’s life. Our neo-cortex simply isn’t designed to handle it. So, that encourages me to take an active role in deciding which people to whom I apply my brain’s limited ability for giving a shit. And if I’ve got some extra spaces (and I think many of us do) I’d rather have them filled by people I rarely, but pleasantly, talk to than with some old faces that I’m only tolerating out of etiquette.
It may seem callous or trivial, but it’s my life and it’s important to me how I live it.
Besides, it’s only Facebook, right?

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Rich, Ridiculous Romney.

Above is the now famous video of Mitt Romney speaking to potential donors about how he won’t be able to get 47% of the vote because they are dependent on the government, don’t want to take responsibility and to ensure continuing their entitled laziness will vote Democrat. It has been no secret that Romney, or Rmoney, is completely out of touch with the middle and lower classes. He’s already infamous for saying he doesn’t really care about the poor  and that $360k isn’t a lot of money.

Although it was soon revealed to be a clever Photoshop work by Democratic Underground, the point resonated too strongly for anyone to care much.

However, it seems he’s completely out of touch with pretty much everything, except his own money. His claim that 47% of America won’t vote for him because they are already comfortable in Obama’s no-tax-paying-pocket does a lot to show how little he knows about his target demographic, or at least what he chooses to ignore about his own party. If you take a look at who actually doesn’t pay their federal taxes, you might find it ironic, or just plain obvious, to see the truth.

That belt looks awfully familiar. That wouldn’t be an overwhelmingly republican area of the country… would it?

Do you also find it interesting that Republicans seem to be the most notorious for evading the most taxes? It stands to reason that the ones most vocal about distrusting government are the least likely to contribute to it. Not that it stops them from accepting unemployment checks and using those conveniently paved roads.
Condemning those who parasitically suckle at Big Brother’s tit is understandable. However, actively avoiding contribution is basically the same thing.
Hypocrisy aside, when you target a group of people for being entitled tax evaders, you should at least be right about which group that is. (And it really shouldn’t be your own.)

The fact of the matter is that Romney shamelessly represents a Republican worldview that is flawed because it is based upon a small and particularly rosy sliver of reality.  To preserve that worldview, they have to that believe that people have earned their relative social position, and ignore bleeding heart liberals who try to point out that the world is in fact in stark contrast.  I think this shows why Republicans put so much effort into “creating their own reality,” into fostering distrust of experts and scientists and why they won’t let a campaign “be dictated by fact-checkers” said one Neil Newhouse. He would know. As a pollster, it’s his job gather public opinions making him the authority on facts. Obviously.
It reveals why there is no shortage of studies that show— examples herehere, and here –  that regular consumers of Republican-oriented media are less informed than people who inform themselves elsewhere or refrain from watching the news at all.

Simply put, those with an extremely limited and highly privileged worldview have to ignore the harsh economic realities of those on the other end of the spectrum in order to maintain that comfortably convenient view and their self-esteem.
This is a man who has traveled much, seen the world and has still managed to come out of it completely unchanged. This is a man that can’t understand Sociology 101 even after having the benefit of going on countless field trips and enjoying numerous hands-on experiences.

And if you do not like Romney but are a republican, you should take a long, hard look at why you believe what you believe. It may just be ignorance. You’re not entirely at fault; it’s difficult to shake one’s perspective.
Everyone grows up believing their normal is the normal.
So, while he may represent a small handful of ill-informed, rich, white Americans; he does not represent this country.
Not even close.

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Mother Teresa was a Cunt.

I remember someone telling me about Mother Teresa being, surprisingly, something of a bitch. She lied frequently about her own achievements and allowed sick people to die, often when they could have been saved by medicine, because she wanted them to go with God. After converting to Christianity, of course.
I forgot most of what he said so today I did some refresher work and it turns out that she did all of that and a whole lot more.
Mother Teresa wasn’t a bitch. In fact, she was a very nice lady.
However, she was probably a sociopath.
And definitely a cunt.

This is a letter submitted by Aroup Chatterjee before the committee for beatification/canonization of Mother Teresa February 1998. In it, she goes into great detail about many of the contradictions between what Mother Teresa claimed she did and what she actually accomplished.

This article is zoomed in a little more in comparison with the above link and is definitely an easier read.


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